20 Questions1. Where did you meet?
The first time we actually met was in the gym at the Stonegate building where we went to church. It was at a Family Home Evening activity during volleyball. However, I had seen him for a while before we actually met at random times during church. And I suppose the VERY first time we met was at a BBQ before his mission at my friend Kristen's house. We didn't talk there though, after his mission he developed a roll of film that had the BBQ pictures on it, and there I was in a picture with a group of his friends. weeeeiiiirrrrrrrd.
2. What was the first thought that went through your head when you met?
Well I dont know what moment qualifies as when we "met" because there was no formal introduction. However, some of my thoughts about him from the day we actually spoke to each other during volleyball were that I thought he was really tall and handsome and my friend Lesley had good taste. My sister Sarah told me to date him, and I remember feeling like I would really love to try, but that I wouldn't do that to Lesley, who had a huge crush on him. I also thought I liked his brown shorts and his white DC shirt together. During one serve I noticed he had a slight lisp, and when I heard it I was sure there had never been a cuter person in the world. I also thought he might have been checking me out while sitting on a chair watching my sister and I joke around on the court- I felt really funny because he laughed at a lot of things I said. I liked that he was not pretending not to be listening.
I got a bit of a crush on him when I was up to serve and he spoke to me for the first time and said, "If you mess this up I'm going to punch you in the neck" It was so random and funny to me that I became much more aware of him the rest of the night.
3. Do you remember what he/she was wearing?
Yes, a white DC shirt, brown cargo shorts, a white hat with a green clover on it, and white adidas.
4.Where was the first time you kissed this person?
In his dad's red Mazda. We had been out a few times- this was probably like our 4th date. I wasn't used to boys taking so long (hah!) to kiss me, and he was so shy. His shyness made me want to kiss him more. We sat in the car when he was dropping me off and it was thick in the air because we both knew the time had come. We started talking about it, and he confessed to being super nervous because it had been a few years since he just got home from his mission. He was kinda shaking and was staring at my mouth and then would sigh and look out the window. Then the radio played the song "Kiss me" by sixpense none the richer. We laughed and I said he had no choice now. Then we saw a shooting star fly across the sky and we laughed at the moment forcing him into it. Finally I said something like "Okay, I want to kiss you now" and he said something like "okay" then we just kissed. I was shocked that he was a great kisser despite how long it had been. He smiled really huge after and I told him he was good at it. I loved it.
5. Where did you go for your first date?
Haha, to get a sandwich. He had asked me out the day before over facebook. We went to Which Which the next day. When he picked me up my mom's friend was there and grilled him when he got in the door. My dad loved him instantly and my mom acted like her normal happy self. We left and he had on a brown jacket and jeans I didn't like. He had Mat Kearney on in the car, and the Jeep was really clean. We talked constantly and laughed and it was so comfortable. We made up funny names for our order, and he stood close to me but never touched me. While we ate our food and talked we agreed not to wipe any of the sauce or crumbs off our faces the whole time we were there. It was hilarious to try and get to know each other with food all over our cheeks and lips. I love that he seemed so shy but was willing to look silly in front of me. After we ate I didn't want to go home because we were having so much fun so we went to his house and played pool and laughed the entire time.
6. How long did you know this person before you became a couple?
Well, it kinda just happened. I knew that I was going to marry him after only like 4 days, even before we kissed. We said I love you after like a week and a half. Somewhere in there, we knew we were a couple. If I had to pick a day it would be when we first kissed.
7. How did he/she ask you out?
Facebook chat. I changed my status to "single" and minutes later he messaged me and said, "I see you are single now" and we talked a lot. He didn't ask me out that night though, and he says he layed awake and was "Rebuked by the spirit" for not asking me out. He said he was so mad at himself for getting offline and not setting up a date. So the next day he got online and waited until I got on and then asked me "Have you ever been to Which Wich?" and I said "no" and he said he wanted to take me there. Unfortunately, I was only half excited. I was flattered that a cute boy wanted to go out with me, but I was hoping he would like Lesley instead of me. I told myself I would just be his friend. Then on the date I got a mad crush and he asked me out for two days later, and I couldn't say no. (I did talk to Lesley about it and she told me she was okay with it, and after she said she was fine with it I let myself really fall for him)
8. Has this person ever proposed to you?
Yes. We knew we were going to get married, and we had already talked about wedding plans. It was the week before Valentines day, and I was looking for bridesmaid dresses at the mall with my friend Jonni. We found some that I loved but didn't buy them that day but stayed looking at them until the mall closed. On the drive home I called Lucas "Hey Lucas, I am just leaving the mall and I found the perfect dress(blah blah blah) I think I am going to go home and wash my hair, then I'll come over, is that okay?"
lucas: "Um, how long will you be?"
me: "Maybe 40 minutes"
lucas: "Well the thing is that my mom is really tired, and wants to go to bed. She also made you some treats, so can you hurry?"
me: "Yeah I'll go fast"
I started driving home but changed my mind and decided not to make his mom wait. So I turned around and drove to his house, unshowererd with a dirty pony tail haha. When I got to his house I noticed his Jeep was gone, I text to ask where he was and he said his sister had his Jeep and to just come inside. It was snowing. I parked and went up the driveway and turned toward his front door and saw a small bunch of balloons tied to a little silver star with a card that had my name on the envelope. I gasped because right away I knew that he was proposing. I took a small second to wish I showered, but then was so excited I giggled like crazy as I opened the card. It told me to go to which wich, and from there there was a balloon and a star that said to go to where we first kissed, so i drove to my house and his dad's car was there with a teddy bear tied to a star and a note that said to go to the place where he "Wanted to punch me in the neck". When I got to the church it was dark and there was a balloon on an unlocked door. All the lights were off except a dim light in the gym and the door was open. I went to the gym and stepped inside. There was a small table in the middle. There were flower petals on the table, and a rose, and little candles. Then there was a box about the size of square tissue box.
I put my hands over my face and started crying. Then I walked to the table and a note told me to open the box. I picked it up and took off the ribbon. Inside the box was another box, and inside that box was a ring box. I cried harder. I took the ring box out and slowly opened it, but was surprised to find a tiny homemade envelope that said, "My Amber" I opened it and it said "Don't Move" I turned around and Lucas was standing behind me in a suit and tie. He looked really nervous but was smiling huge. He walked up to me where I was crying. He said, "Amber, I know we have never been able to find the right word to describe how we feel. But I want to spend the rest of my life trying to prove it to you." He got on his knee and asked, "Will you marry me?" His voice was shaking. I put my hands over my face again and nodded and said, "yes, of course!" (I think) and then he stood up and we hugged and kissed and remember feeling his heart pounding through his suit.
9. Do you and this person have kids together?
Yes, one beautiful perfect daughter who has already returned to heaven, named Molly. We are also expecting a son, due in January.
10.Have you ever broken the law with this person?
Lucas doesn't break laws. Though, I'm sure he drives about 4 mph over the speed limit so you can count that.
11. When was the first time you realized you liked this person?
First when he said he was going to punch me in the neck. Really it was after just a few minutes of our first date.
12. Do you get along with his/her family?
It would be hard not to. His family is amazing, and I get along with all of them.
13. Do you trust this person?
I would hope so! But really, I trust him completely. He is faithful, loyal, reliable, honest, strong, and perfect.
14. Do you see him/her as your partner in your future?
Yes, obviously. So I'm going to replace this question. <<<
14. What is your favorite thing about this person?
I dont think I can pick just one thing. His personality as a whole, I guess. I have struggled since I first met him to find anything wrong with him. I guess my top things about his personality that I love are his integrity and his sense of humor.
15. What is the best gift he/she gave you?
Cheesy as it may sound, I'm going to have to say that he chose to turn his own life around and become the person he wanted to be and never looked back. His faithfulness to his covenants and to the Lord is the best gift and I am thankful for it every day. As far as material gifts go, I would say my wedding ring or a statue to a couple holding a baby that he got me for mothers day. Or maybe the page he scrapbooked for Molly's book. I dont know, he's good at gifts!
16. What is one thing he/she does that gets on your nerves?
He isn't cuddly at night. I always want to snuggle him, and although he wont tell me he wants me back on my side or less close to him, I can tell that he just wants to go to sleep. He shuts down at night and wants to cuddle in the morning. I am a robot until noon so morning cuddles are rare.
17. Where do you see each other 15 years from now?
I see us parenting maybe 6 kids. (we want them close) Hopefully some of them will have been adopted, because I am passionate about adoption. We will live in Colorado. Lucas will work for the church doing Real Estate, and might work for another company too. I will be a stay home mom, but one night a week I will be Nursing at a nearby hospital. Moose will be really old or have passed away. Once Moose is gone (sad!) we will get Lucas the German Shepherd he wants so badly.
18. What causes the most arguments?
We dont fight, and I can hardly remember arguing. I guess the thing that has caused the most "big conversations" or tense moments would simply be small misunderstandings or when we simply have different opinions about something and have to make a single decision.
19. How long have you been together?
Three years this December. I can't believe how fast time flies.
20. Are you married?
Happily. It will be three years married this coming April. :)